But here is the silver lining, the warm ray of golden light at the end of my tunnel. I am not alone. This is another thing that nobody told me about marriage; if you will allow your partner to be present in your pain, and to help carry the weight of your sorrows, you will find a well of strength deeper that you could ever imagine and it will bind you even closer together.
I am finding that, in the midst of our loss, we are finding each other more and more.
It's funny how we take for granted the sunny days and the good times, in every aspect of our lives. Human beings seem to be able to drown both the good and the bad of life in an ocean of everyday banality. If it works, we don't meddle, and at the same time stop appreciating how blessed we really are.
Tragedy has a way of rocking our world so we can see what our foundations are made of.
Here is what I have learned while looking at mine:
- You can isolate yourself in an effort to protect your heart, but you will miss out on the warmth and comfort that comes with being protected by your partner
- Sharing your pain will bring you closer together. As you show your heart and see what is in your partner's heart your love will reach new heights. There is growth in a relationship that can only come in hard times.
- Build on each other in the good times. The stronger you make your relationship on the sunny days, the better you'll be able to shelter in it on the rainy ones.
I do not wish hard times on anyone, however they are an inevitable part of life. So the next time you find yourself in the midst of heartache or disaster, at the very least, use the moment to draw closer to the one you love. There is opportunity even in tragedy.
